I was reading meticulous’s latest post and It just struck me. I have been thinking about a similar situation for the past six months.
When one of my friends got married. She totally forgot about everyone she ever knew before her marriage. It's like, from the day she married the guy, he became everything in her life, and she started a new life. She also had a few arguments with people who used to be close to her, and decided to drift away instead of talking it through.
She sees her mom and siblings every other day, but she hasn't seen the rest of her family or friends in a looong loong time, how sad, right? It almost brought me to tears the other day. Why can’t she have both… a husband that she loves and great friends and family that will have her back whenever she needs it?
I want her to know somehow that I will always be there for her... if someday he’d break her heart (God forbid). I want her to lean on me and never even doubt that I won’t be there for her.
Sad thing is, I’ve been too stubborn to call her. I wanted her to call first ( but I guess that’ll never happen). We haven't talked or seen each other in more than a year. :(
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oh I've heard that alot,and it is so common in our society I guess, mmm I guess you don't have to wait for a call,go out have fun and meet new friends bro ^-^
yeah its common ;(
a year ago my best friend got engaged and he suddenly DISAPPEARED ...yes he calls from time to time but never like before!!! he even didn't tell her about me!!!
i would never do the same!!
i know what you mean =(
feeling 7adda sucks =(
my cuz got married 3 years ago, and ive seen her only once since then...this is after i used to see her every weekend bl zwara =(
ma tenlamain, el salfa ethayeg... esp. if its a close friend :/
i think u should break the ice and call her o inshallah i works out.
she started a new life. She also had a few arguments with people who used to be close to her, and decided to drift away instead of talking it through.
omg i faced the same exact situation.. i called her wila chan itgooli, "mino ma3ay?"
imagine.. ana gelt maybe 9ij inmesa7 raqmi somehow bs i called her later b3d months chan itgooli, "NA3AM"
akher shay he cheated on her bs ham she didnt call me..
don't call her hottie
P-ella: lol, I'm doing that already ;)
Nemo: What!!! LOL, yeah never do that!
Dandoon: How sad... That's very similar to my case. :(
Atoona: LOL, I'll think of it, amybe the next time I'm in Kuwait I will.
Spur: You think I shouldn't? Your friend is mean! How can amyone be like that...just makes me sad.
That's so sad.She shouldn't do that,a true friend is hard to find.She should appreciate you as her friend.She also need to have balance in her life between her husband,friends and family.Im glad we are friends,i will never ever do that on you wallah!Call me!Hehe =)
Try to let go and forget about what she did,call her,try to be the one who move first this time,who know she misses you too but too shy to call up coz she has't make an effort to contact you for long time.Its good once a while to be nicey!
Yeah, I think When you haven't called in a long time, it just adds to the awkwardness. I might call her if I go back to Kuwait this winter, if not, I'll call her next summer :(
Generally speaking, when women in our society get married, their whole life revolves around their husband, trying to be the perfect "stepford wife". They put all of their time and effort into their marriage causing them to unintentionally alienate everyone else! it's sad because when they finally realize it, it's too late.
yeah my friend became like that too
and whats really messed up ina we lived in the same building during our uni days
bs she stopped coming over n going out with us
messed up
D'mac: I've noticed :(
eshda3wa: Why do people do that!
Zara... What happened to your blog? I can't find it.
Sorry hun,forget to tell you that i changed my blog link,bad bad me.Here's my new one http://zarawafahd.blogspot.com/
yeah i think it's common too!!;p
Zara: Thanx :)
Meemz: yeah, and not only in our society (I've noticed).
it's not appropriate to treat ur close friends & family like this ! every1 get married ! so wat !!!
this's so lame ! if any girl would do that, it means she has no heart at all, and selfish too !!
i cherish my friends more than any1else & i would never 4get the old days !!
it won't break the marriage if the girl kept in touch with her gals !
I have seen that a lot from some of my married relaties and friends.
They are considered closest people to you when all of a sudden, bang, my hubby is everything for me!!
Don't be stubborn and talk to her. Don't consider it winning or losing. Just show her that you're better than her sweetie
eh its a cycle that happens to everybody everywhere...let her do what she wants and she knows that you'll be there when she needs you..space is what ppl need from time to time..
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